Destination: Pleasure.

Atlanta Photographer

Last weekend, I was told to go find pleasure to add to my day…

So I did just that. I put the top down, grabbed a coffee, and decided I’d enjoy a drive with the wind in my hair and the sun on my shoulders and the music turned all the way up!

Destination…nowhere! Perfect!

And as I headed out on my ‘Destination Nowhere’ day out, little did I know that there actually was a destination up ahead (but more on that in a bit.), but what I did promise myself in that moment is that I would do it in a way so it all felt downstream.

Easy. Effortless. Fun.

So I took off and I turned when there were green lights, took the road that had no cars stopped and just drove. It felt amazing!

With music loud, wind in my hair, about 20 minutes out, I heard this loud roar and as I peeked above, I felt like a kid. I was watching this belly of a gigantic airplane above my head and it just felt magical AF! It was as if I had reached up, I would have been able to touch it! 

So I decided to pull off onto the easiest exit and found an open spot to watch the planes. It sent me into a really cool memory and dream space as I heard their roars and started wondering where they were headed.

And that reminded me of how much I love to travel!! I’ve lived in Arizona, New Mexico, and then in Europe in my 20’s and traveled all over and then kept it up in short stints for work which took me to Vancouver, India, and Calgary. And that didn’t include family vacays between Scotland, St Lucia, Mexico, the Keys and many more places over the past many years!

Atlanta Photographer
Atlanta Photographer

And so, then after not traveling because of all the health issues I had had for a few years, I thought about how I celebrated my single-hood and healthy beginnings birthday gift to myself last year to California! And then, of course, as ya’all know, Asheville has been a mainstay for a while now!

So, watching these planes that day got me back to dreaming. And I realized that I want more of this. And, maybe one of these time, to not plan the hell out of the trip. Why not just go!? Kinda like the drive today?

Breathe it, feel it and be all in on being present and in the moment and truly surrendering to being taken care of.

Pleasure at its finest.

Watching these planes and dreaming of more travel also got me excited about the retreat I am planning and out of the blue, I got all these new and cool ideas that I want to do for the women who join me.

I want women to give themselves permission to enjoy, love themselves, their bodies, and find their pleasure and their OWN destination! Which then brought up a thought...can it be that simple!? That pleasure can be found in that stillness and presence of self?

And funnily enough, I realized that is the magic and the tough part all at once. To just be. To surrender. To create everything by creating nothing. To breathe and take up space. 

So my “Destination: Nowhere’ was a dose of all of that and so much more and best of all, it felt blissful and totally downstream. Between the wind in my hair, clouds in the bluest sky and the sunshine blazing down and planes roaring overhead going to destinations unknown, I created a bit of magic in me and for me as I discovered pleasure can exist in whatever I desire it to be.

And now to create that same magic in my business so I can spread the love...And maybe I need to reframe it: Destination: Pleasure.

Yes, that is it. Here we go, you want to join me?
xoxo

Atlanta Photographer
 

My ‘Freedom Tour’ . . . all about receiving!

My ‘Freedom Tour’ . . . all about receiving!

I realized today that it was ok to celebrate me and that it was time to receive all that was given yesterday. From wanting to cancel the party earlier in the week to making it happen in less than 48 hours and knowing that I had a connection of some sort with each person who was there to celebrate with me, was such a magical experience that I wouldn’t trade for anything!

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GIRL, GET YOUR FLIRT ON!

GIRL, GET YOUR FLIRT ON!

Are you ready to get that “girl” back – the one who used to have fun; the one who easily shared her warm smile along with the ‘zero f**** given’ attitude!?

And, don’t misunderstand me, this isn’t about going back in time wishing for what was or what could have been.

It’s actually the opposite. It is all about looking to the future and the amazing possibilities that exist and the growth of the deeper part of our lives.

Wouldn’t it be fun to to learn how to play again? Like the feeling of being on a swing and touching our feet to the clouds and laughing with each back and forth.

And now the fun could be when we look up and feel confident with a smile and maybe even a flirtatious head tilt and laugh that goes along with it.

I mean, why not?

Flirting can actually be quite empowering and fun.

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Vulnerability is a Superpower

Vulnerability is a Superpower

“I resolved to finally have a photo session of my own.

I decided that it was time to “walk the talk”. I was always talking about showing up and being seen but I was also the one that was hiding in plain sight.

The night before my session, I panicked. I felt super overwhelmed, anxious, scared, and vulnerable. I tried to cancel, but that was not an option.

I tried to make sense of my feelings of vulnerability so I could understand why showing up felt so yucky. Why couldn’t I just wave a magic wand and make my anxiety disappear in a puff of smoke? It bugged me, but it made me truly understand the courage and strength the women I work with possess. I see women every day who boldly step through their own fears to start their own business, to get up on stage to speak and find their voice, to have the courage to get in front of the camera like so many have done with me.

And although women have always shared their vulnerability and fears with me before they get in front of my camera, I never truly understood it until I was the one being photographed. Being the photographer on the other side of the lens is a much safer place. Yes, I was empathetic to their feelings, but I never really got it until the day I did it myself.

Vulnerability is a place I don’t like to go. It’s a dark space that requires major trust, and love, and empathy of SELF. Oddly enough, I am amazing at creating a safe space for my clients during a photo shoot. What I had to learn to do was to create the same safe space for myself.”

That excerpt was written by me almost 5 years ago.

And it was eye opening.

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'This is me at 40!'

'This is me at 40!'

When I got a call from Andie late last summer, I was so excited! I remember thinking after we got off the phone, OMG, I want MORE of THIS kind of awesome, badass woman as my client!”

She was turning 40 in December and wanted to celebrate herself as she worked towards self-acceptance and confidence. She decided that she wanted two sessions - a ‘Celebrate You!’ and a ‘Natural Light Nudes’ photo experience and so we worked to make that happen!

We didn’t get a chance to meet for another few weeks but talked several times in between and so when I did finally see her in person, it was as if I knew this woman all along. And what I knew of her long distance was in fact, more than true in real life!

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A Clothes On/Clothes Off Situation

A Clothes On/Clothes Off Situation

Have you ever taken a moment to be clear about your business? Look at why certain things feel good and other things suck!? Recognize your unique gifts that you offer the world? Figure out what lights YOU the f*** up?

If you haven’t, I highly encourage you to do it!! You’ll be blown away by what you discover in the process!

These past few weeks have been have been an especially full of self discovery.  I’ve felt again like I was chasing my North Star and had no idea where it was!

And unbeknownst to me, however, that North Star? Well, it’s been with me, in me, and the most integral part of me the whole time!

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3 Exciting Things Happening Now

3 Exciting Things Happening Now

I am so excited to share with you all the awesome things happening over here at Woman Redefined!

It’s so good to be back after such a long personal break and I’m looking forward to lots of amazing photo shoots and meeting so many of you badass women!!

Here are 3 things that are happening right now that I want you to know about!

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And then the dream became real.

 And then the dream became real.

You know the one thing that you really want to do and it sits deep down inside of you and you always think about it but (at least for me), can’t get yourself to move forward on? Or you think others will judge you on so you ignore the nudges.

I had that “thing” for many, many years. Always wondered. Always doubted (myself). Always would dream about if I could make real “artwork”.

That dream for me had always been to photograph nudes.

I almost feel silly saying that out loud. It makes me feel super vulnerable and judged.

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Are you ready to change your default setting?

Are you ready to change your default setting?

Make no mistake, you are not alone when you catch a bad angle in the mirror and trust me, sister, I’ve been driven to tears a time or two myself. You see, I have always been able to see the beauty in other women but when I looked in the mirror, that same beauty didn’t shine through, instead I let destructive thoughts hold my self esteem hostage. I would tell myself I was disgusting, fat, undeserving of the cute top I was trying on. During my transformation, learning to accept my body the way it was played a huge part in who I became.

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