This past weekend, I received at least a dozen private messages telling me that it was female blackout day the following day and said this: “Tomorrow, female blackout from 8:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. It’s a movement to show what the world might be like without women. Your profile photo should just be a black square so that men wonder where the women are. Pass it only to women ... It's for a project against domestic abuse. It is no joke. Share it.”
And yes I understood the purpose behind it (even though it was vague and had no date or a major group behind the campaign) but I figured maybe it was legit. But that didn’t mean I had to support it because the language just didn’t sit right with me.
And I’m a survivor of domestic violence myself, so I get it. But I kept asking myself, WHY does it matter that men wonder where we are!? I want women NOT to have to worry about what men think of us and instead show our own selves that we matter!!!
With all due respect to women who sent these to me, first I want to thank you for using your voice and doing what you believe in, but I have decided that I will not fade to black, disappear and go quiet.
I will not fade to black, disappear and go quiet.
Instead, I want to fucking sparkle and find my voice and strength and let go of my fears that held me down for so freaking long!! I’m tired of feeling uncomfortable, unsafe and unheard, it’s time to sparkle like fuck!!
Maybe, just maybe, if all the women embraced their bright shining light that is deep within and brought it to the surface then we could blind others with it instead!!?? What if?!
So today as I move forward with my life, I’m not fading to gray or black anymore, but instead, I am learning to be brave enough to flip that switch and turn that light on within and show the world that this woman and all other women hold massive power in our collectiveness and that we will take no more shit, no more abuse and will continue to be a force to be reckoned with always!!!
So let’s fucking sparkle instead, shall we?!??