The gift I received in California.

The gift I received in California.

My post today was going to be about my adventure as I find myself at this ridiculously gorgeous resort in California celebrating my 52nd birthday along with my newly found singlehood and freedom!

I was gonna talk about how important it is to celebrate yourself (because that is the theme this month!), or how the (super cute) chef made my food specifically for my protocol and then came out to chat (aka flirt) with me for what seemed ages...

But then at dinner tonight, as I was finishing up, I met Deb and Scott.

Deb just leaned over and started chatting with me. And then for the next two hours, we all chatted about so much and I walked away so fulfilled and happy and realized that this was exactly what I needed this evening.

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I hired you because you aren't boudoir.

I hired you because you aren't boudoir.

Me: “I would love your thoughts on this...do you think I should change my name to Natural Light Boudoir?”

Client: “HELL NOOOO!!! Don’t you dare!!”

Me: “ummm….ok...why? Because you know, Boudoir SELLS! And it is taking a minute for women to get on board with Nudes and even a Celebrate You! Session...so I was just thinking…”

Client: “See the thing is Rupa, I hired you because you were NOT boudoir. I wanted to work with you because of the artwork you create in your Nudes and the joy you bring out in your women during your entrepreneur sessions. And so that is why I asked you if we could create something for me since I am not an entrepreneur, but I wanted a fun session to bring out who I am on camera!”

Me: “Oh, ok, wow. I get it. And I LOVE that!”

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How about we f’n SPARKLE instead?

How about we f’n SPARKLE instead?

This past weekend, I received at least a dozen private messages telling me that it was female blackout day the following day and said this: “Tomorrow, female blackout from 8:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. It’s a movement to show what the world might be like without women. Your profile photo should just be a black square so that men wonder where the women are. Pass it only to women ... It's for a project against domestic abuse. It is no joke. Share it.”

And yes I understood the purpose behind it (even though it was vague and had no date or a major group behind the campaign) but I figured maybe it was legin. But that didn’t mean I had to support it because the language just didn’t sit right with me.

And I’m a survivor of domestic violence myself and so I get it. But I kept asking myself,  WHY does it matter that men wonder where we are!? I want women NOT to have to worry about what men think of us and instead show our own selves that we matter!!!

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Tell Your Mean Girl to STFU

Tell Your Mean Girl to STFU

Every time I meet a woman for a photo shoot, the first thing I hear from her is a list of what is “wrong” with her.

Have you noticed that “ego feed” that pops into your brain throughout the day? That mean girl voice that show up on most days and that voices things that you would never say to anyone else?

Well, I would hear that all the time. The more I heard these unkind words of self-loathing, the more I would remember feeling that way about myself. It was like looking into a mirror, and it just made me sad.

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A Clothes On/Clothes Off Situation

A Clothes On/Clothes Off Situation

Have you ever taken a moment to be clear about your business? Look at why certain things feel good and other things suck!? Recognize your unique gifts that you offer the world? Figure out what lights YOU the f*** up?

If you haven’t, I highly encourage you to do it!! You’ll be blown away by what you discover in the process!

These past few weeks have been have been an especially full of self discovery.  I’ve felt again like I was chasing my North Star and had no idea where it was!

And unbeknownst to me, however, that North Star? Well, it’s been with me, in me, and the most integral part of me the whole time!

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3 Exciting Things Happening Now

3 Exciting Things Happening Now

I am so excited to share with you all the awesome things happening over here at Woman Redefined!

It’s so good to be back after such a long personal break and I’m looking forward to lots of amazing photo shoots and meeting so many of you badass women!!

Here are 3 things that are happening right now that I want you to know about!

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And then the dream became real.

 And then the dream became real.

You know the one thing that you really want to do and it sits deep down inside of you and you always think about it but (at least for me), can’t get yourself to move forward on? Or you think others will judge you on so you ignore the nudges.

I had that “thing” for many, many years. Always wondered. Always doubted (myself). Always would dream about if I could make real “artwork”.

That dream for me had always been to photograph nudes.

I almost feel silly saying that out loud. It makes me feel super vulnerable and judged.

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I'd rather be imperfectly perfect, how about you?

I'd rather be imperfectly perfect, how about you?

I just wrote an Instagram post that is going live later this week and it says “If we can see ourselves a imperfectly perfect, life just shines so much brighter and becomes easier and we become whole again. It is then that we see ourselves as beautiful, kind and worthy of it all.”

Because trying to be perfect sucks and is too much work so I’d rather be imperfect at it and be happy and take care of myself in the best way that I can, how about you?


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Are you ready to change your default setting?

Are you ready to change your default setting?

Make no mistake, you are not alone when you catch a bad angle in the mirror and trust me, sister, I’ve been driven to tears a time or two myself. You see, I have always been able to see the beauty in other women but when I looked in the mirror, that same beauty didn’t shine through, instead I let destructive thoughts hold my self esteem hostage. I would tell myself I was disgusting, fat, undeserving of the cute top I was trying on. During my transformation, learning to accept my body the way it was played a huge part in who I became.

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